Ryan's wish was to help other people,he was training to become a carer here is Ryan's story
Ryan was born on 14th July 1990. At the age of 2 years Ryan was diagnosed with Autism but he coped well with this.He got on with life as best as he could although there were some things that Ryan could not do but this never bothered him at all.
He went on to attend a special school making lots of friends along the way.He never complained about anything, he was always smiling and wanted to help others like himself when he got older. That was Ryan's wish.
Ryan can no longer fulfill his own wish,so I as his mum have to make his wish come true for him,in his memory.
I am trying my best to fulfill Ryan's wish and have set up an Angel Children Grief Share Support Group in the Ashfield area of Nottinghamshire in memory of Ryan.This is a support group run by bereaved parents and siblings for bereaved parents,siblings their relatives and friends. Anyone wishing to join our group is more than welcome.
Ryan went on to attended college in Tynemouth where he befriended lots of disabled young adults, although by now Ryan was wheelchair bound himself, he still helped those who needed it more than him at that time.In 2008 sadly Ryan was diagnosed with a genetic terminal Brain disease called vanishing white matter. He became used to his wheelchair and also got used to the fact that he was losing the use of his limbs,speech and everything else that this disease affected.
Ryan was loved by everyone who came into contact with him and loved everyone in return. He loved classic cars and Newcastle United Football Team and met quite a few of the players.He loved a wide range of music he especially loved queen. But most of all Ryan had a wish to help others.
Sadly Ryan was rushed into hospital in late December 2008 where he was diagnosed with a massive brain tumor,collapsed lung and pneumonia. We all made him as comfortable as we could but sadly Ryan fell asleep and gained his Angel wings on 17th January 2009.
Ryan's wish was to help other people
Ryan's legacy is Angel Children, providing free mini headstones to parents after child loss.
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| Ryan James Foden 14.07.90 - 17.01.09 |
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I lost my own child many years ago to miscarriage,hope lots of other Angel mums share their memories of all their Angels.I still think of my Angel but did not get to know if my Angel is a boy or girl so always just say I have an Angel baby in heaven...
ReplyDeleteI lost my brother 2 years ago.It hurts like mad he was not only my brother but one of my best friends too.He was killed in a road accident he was 23 years old,I also miscarried my little girl 9 weeks ago today,So I know only too well the pain that we all bare.Some days I just cry all day and night other days are a little easier but the pain never goes away,we just learn to cope.I am angry at the person that crashed his car into my brother killing him,I am angry that I could not carry my little girl to full term,WHY ME,WHY?
ReplyDeleteSo sorry to both of you for your loss,I think we have all thought why me at some point on our grief journey,and your right we do just learn to live with our pain and grief.Sometimes putting on a smile for the outside world but knowing inside us it is crippling.I hope you find some peace of mind even just a little bit by posting on our blog and sharing your feelings with others xx
ReplyDeleteHi i am gemma Ryan's sister it is hard to loose a little brother when i didn't get to see him much through his short eighteen years of life but helping others and chatting does help love you and miss you always million kisses to you little bro xxxx
ReplyDeleteHello fellow Angel parents/siblings/family/friends
ReplyDeleteI lost my daughter Stacey 7 months ago age 12 years.People say it gets easier,but in all honesty I don't for one minute think it does.I hurt like mad everyday my heart is broken and I know this pain will never go away.Sometimes I feel like a zombie just walking around doing boring tasks like cooking a little something,washing up,hoovering,going to the shops,all things I used to do when my little princess was here,but now I hate doing anything.I have Stacey's urn on a shelf but take it to my bedroom everynight just to talk to my child.Stacey died when she was run over by a drunk driver,and my life will never be the same again even though I have two more children my sons who I know I love and still care for and look after as best I can I will never get over losing my little girl,I will never see her grow up to become a beautiful woman,never see what her children would of been like,I have been robbed of something so precious.My beautiful child,my daughter,my princess.Does anyone out there feel as shattered and broken hearted as I feel?
Thank you Gemma and everyone else for sharing our blog xx
ReplyDeleteShirley I am so sorry for your loss I am with you knowing the pain does never go away.Gentle hugs to you, I too am broken hearted like most of us Angel mum's xx
Deepest sympathy to Gary Barlow his wife and family on the very sad loss of their baby daughter,my thoughts are with the family at this time xx
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ReplyDeleteI would like to stay anonymous if I may, but I would just like to say, last night this lady done the most selfless act,and for those who are on facebook and saw what Marilyn did I would all hope you would all agree with me. "What did she do"? I hear you asking,well I will tell you.
ReplyDeleteLast night on facebook there was a bereaved mum threatening suicide, I will mention no names,there were many many people on there so worried about the woman, all helpless to do anything,but then the Angel Marilyn came along,and without having met this woman who was threatening suicide,Marilyn asked anyone if they had the lady's address,the address was inboxed to Marilyn by another lady,and swiftly Marilyn rang the police,jumped in a taxi and went to the woman's house,to stop this woman from doing any harm to herself.
We all waited and waited for news,then the news came Marilyn had got the lady the help that was needed,went back home and let us all know that the woman in question was safe with the police and some members of family.
Marilyn, you have to be the kindest most selfless woman I have the pleasure of knowing.You are an Angel and an inspiration to many people,I hope and pray to my God above that you get the support with Angel Children that you need to keep going,as the work you do is just amazing,if it were not for beautiful people like you in this world that do amazing acts of kindness,this world would be a much sadder place for some of us.
So I ask everyone who visits this blog to please leave a comment and a little support for the Angel who helps others in their time of grief.Well done Marilyn Foden you have uplifted my spirits and renewed my faith in God and human nature.Bless you xx
The time difference is wrong on here I would like to say I posted the above statement just before 7.30 am UK time on 14/8/12
ReplyDeleteThank you for your caring words,I wish I knew who you were so I could thank you personally.But I only did what any other person would have done at the time,I am glad I uplifted you.
ReplyDeleteI wasn't on FB last night,so don't know what went off but I know if help was needed Angel Children would of helped anyway they could,I too am going to ask if everyone could show their support for Angel Children they all do such fantastic work,it's about time we gave back to the good people of this world xx
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Watching with love and devotion
Forever eternally
I lost my little boy at 25 weeks he was my first baby I was going to have but then at 25 weeks I was at home and I woke up in pain so I went to the hospital and got told that I was going to have my little boy so then they had to brake my waters and I got told for a 50/50 chance off my baby surviving I would have to go for a sea section to have my little boy and by tym I was put to sleep and ready to have my angle his heart had stopped and there was nothing no one could do so I got woken up to tell me that my little baby boy had died and he was still inside me and I was going to have to give birth to him when he eventually came he weight 0.870kg and he got name and blessed as sky ethan connell now 7 months old and its still hard that hes gone but I know hes in a peaceful and better place now xx
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